Helping Someone Who Doesn’t Recognize They Need Help

“I was told two years ago my husband is bipolar. He took med’s for a while and stopped and it’s getting worse every day. He says there is nothing wrong with him … How do you get someone help that thinks he don’t need it???”

25454_walking_embracedFirst I want to commend you for reaching out for help for your husband. He is very lucky to have such a supportive wife on his side. As for getting help for your husband, that can be quite tricky but not an impossible task. On one hand you don’t want to push too much as that might cause him to completely shut down, on the other hand it’s very important he does get some kind of professional help. What I suggest is to continue to keep the lines of communication open with him. Let him know you are there for him and that you want to educate yourself more about the disorder.

Try finding out why he decided to stop taking his med’s, sometimes the harsh side effects can deter many from taking their meds. Does he think that he is better and that he doesn’t need the medicine anymore, he may think he has his bipolar under control. Many people quit taking their medicine because they mistakenly think they are better and therefore do not need medicine anymore. I think it’s very important to get a clear understanding of why he stopped taking his medicine.

I know it can be difficult to keep your patience with a Bipolar who does not want to get help or who is in denial about needing help. Continue to educate yourself about the illness so you can understand what he may be going through at the moment. If his untreated bipolar is causing issues for you in the marriage I suggest therapy for the both of you. Someone who is in a neutral position may have better luck at convincing him that he needs treatment. If that doesn’t work maybe try to turning to a family member or a close friend.

There also support groups that you can turn to that maybe able to help. The DBSA has support groups in a variety of areas and they are free. If there are signs that he maybe a danger to himself or anyone around him, call his doctor right away or call 911. If he isn’t in danger continue to be supportive and encourage him to seek help. At the end of the day it’s up to your husband to seek help and all you can do is to continue to be his support system.

Best wishes to you and your husband.

One thought on “Helping Someone Who Doesn’t Recognize They Need Help

  1. Some good advice here, however sometimes even when you do all the things right, it doesn’t help. Calling a doctor and 911 after recieving what was essentially a “goodbye” text from my brother did no good. When a mentally ill person is smart enough to tell people what he thinks they want to hear, there is nothing that they can do to “confine” them, apparently. I know this because my brother took his own life 13 days ago. I’ve decided that bipolar is like cancer. Sometimes you get the right diagnosis, get the right treatments and do all the things you’re supposed to and the disease is just too tricky and strong and you can’t overcome it no matter how hard you try. Eventually it just gets you. Don’t mean to be a downer, just my 2 cents.

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