i have a best friend. i have heard from other people that she is bipolar and she has mentioned that a few times too. How can i tell if she is really bipolar without asking her and making things awkward?
also, how does being bipolar affect your relationships with people?
i don’t know what to do. it’s hard to deal with all her ups and downs but i also don’t want to leave her because she is my best friend. we both really care about each other but her moods switch so often that i don’t even think she likes me half the time. what should i do?
That must be tough for, honestly, both of you – maintaining friendships can be difficult enough without other issues involved… and the situation must be stressful. The diagnosis of Bipolar Disorder
can only come from a qualified physician/therapist and really should – it keeps the person involved from getting stereotyped by themselves and others… and honestly getting caught up on the diagnosis more than the situation. Getting caught up in diagnosis is something I struggle with myself – and the best thing I can say to sum up the situation is that while it is helpful to have a diagnosis for things like treatment plans and insurance billing, the label doesn’t change how the person feels.
Assuming you’re both best friends, while it may be hard, you may want to approach the topic directly and talk with her about the mood pattern(s) you see. Maybe note to situations where you have noticed it moreso that others… and keep the conversation about what you have observed, without titles, and ask how she has felt about those situations. If the conversation is going well it may be helpful to suggest that she talk with a therapist about her moods and if, you feel comfortable, offer to go with her to help support her and also give the therapist/doctor more context on what you have observed. As best friends, while the initial conversation may be awkward, she’ll will likely appreciate the honestly and support from you.