So what do WE do???!!!!

Being a writer on this site is one of the most FANTASTICAL things I do these days. (Yes, fantastical is a word according to Dane Cook)  It has become one of the biggest parts of my life. It not only gives me a chance to help others through the same struggles and questions I had during the roller coaster of my life, but it has also provided me a sense of therapy by being able to revisit various points in my life (the good and bad) and continue to learn and grow from them.   Writing for Ask A Bipolar has been a huge part of my own therapy. 🙂  Well, what happens when I don’t have the answer?  I know I answer questions about bipolar and being bipolar all the time and give a lot of advice to others, but clearly, I don’t have all the answers.  So, today, I am asking you all for YOUR advice!

What do I do when someone I love does not really know much about bipolar and my attempts to educate them are shot down or ignored?

I answer questions like this all the time for others, but what do I do when all of my own suggestions aren’t helpful?  This makes me question my own advice.  I mean, I know that I don’t have all the answers, and I don’t claim to, but I thought that my situation would be something that I surely could figure out myself.  Why can’t I?  Being bipolar is not only something that I have, but is a huge part of my life.  So how can I get them to understand this huge part of me?  To understand that some things are biological, and that being bipolar can’t be cured, just managed?  To understand the things I do and ways in which I manage it?



One thought on “So what do WE do???!!!!

  1. I recently learned that it’s not necessarily about understanding.
    At least for my relationship…
    Since I know my b/f doesn’t understand and will Never understand, simply b/c he CAN’T, I’ve decided just to ask for him to be there for me.
    He can’t fix me, even though that’s what guys want to do. But there’s nothing he can do about that. Just like I can’t fix the fact that his dad passed away recently. I wish to God I could, but I can’t… All I can do is be there for him — give him space when he needs it and talk to him when he needs it, or whatever else…
    A couple days ago, I started crying — for NO reason, of course — and he asked me why. I honestly didn’t know and I told him so. He didn’t push for an answer or act like I was stupid for being that way … he just gave me a kiss and left me alone. Because, let’s face it, that’s all he Could do. Just let me work through it. And I did. And then I was in a great mood.
    Also, I find times to slip in SUPER SIMPLE explanations for why I say or do the things I do. Just to let him know. I don’t go on and on about it, but if he has questions, and sometimes he does!, I can talk about it a little more.
    But this is my baby, unfortunately. It’s mine to deal with and work through — for the rest of my life. I’m better now than I was even five years ago, but that doesn’t mean I’m OK by any means.
    And he’ll have to deal with his dad, which is something that will haunt him for the rest of his life.
    All we can do is be there for each other and make sure we Know that no matter what happens, we’re not going anywhere and we love each other.
    It sounds stupid and not really like a solution, but it’s the only thing I’ve found that works…

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