So after a rough week I can’t help but feel bad for my family and friends who have been putting up with my ‘issues’. It got me thinking and I can’t help but wonder, how did my moods affect them???
And thus my question for you….
If you SUFFER from BP … who do you think it affects the most? Friends, Siblings, Parents, Spouses, Children?
If you KNOW SOMEONE who suffers from BP … how does their illness affect you?
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Nikki
October 30, 2010
2:36 pm
Without a doubt, my husband and stepson are affected. Unavoidable truth.
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amycatesmith
October 30, 2010
3:17 pm
I think it affects the people you live with the most. The people you are closest to.
I know when I’m feeling bad (unless it’s just soooo horrible I can’t control it), I’m pretty dang good at hiding it from most people.
But….I take it out on those I love the most. For the worst reason ever. They’re the ones who deserve it the least. Thing is, I know they’re going to stick around. They get it — at least as much as they can. So they get the brunt of the drama and it’s not always pretty.
I hate that I do it, but it’s just how it happens.
To a perfect stranger, I’ll be sweet as pie….but if I’m home and the littlest thing happens and I get irritated, or if I’m just plain down and mopey, it’s my guy and my little girl who have to deal.
Actually, I’ve been working a lot over the past 3 years to make it so I don’t take it out on my girl, but my guy….sorry to say he has to take it. And he does.
I’m thankful my meds started working again within the last week, because we were really starting to be distant. Not in a bad way, but he was kind of leaving me alone and I know he was worried and I don’t like that. I like open communication, no matter how difficult it may be.
But it’s inevitable. Those closest to you are going to be the ones affected. Because they’re there and they care. (Ha…that rhymed…lame!) I just make sure to apologize as much as possible and *try* to keep myself in check. Remind myself it’s not ME…it’s something else making me feel and act like this. That in itself helps bring me back to reality a bit…
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Mama Bear
October 30, 2010
5:59 pm
My son’s mood disorder pretty much dictates the kind of day our whole family will have. Even if were all in a good mood, if he isn’t the day turns sour. But if he is happy, we all feel the good vibe and run with it.
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Laina
October 31, 2010
2:07 pm
I am at a point right now in my life where alot of bad things have happened in a very short period of time and I am trying to get my self under control so I can function but in the process, my boyfriend, mother (she is bipolar as well) and what breaks my heart the most is that my issues are affecting them and anyone that gets close to me. I feel sometimes like I am a disease and if someone gets to close to me they are going to catch it. By catching it that would be me referring to my speech, arguements, yelling and it goes on. I try my best to stay under control for all of them and my self so I am seeing a phsychiatrist and just started a new medication along with therapy and possible anger management. I just hope i am not like this forever! I love my boyfriend but I think he is at his witts end. Does anyone know what I can do to try and help him understand my diagnoses. I want my children to have a happy mommy that can and want to do all the fun things they would like….can they make a pill for that?
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wendy
November 10, 2010
2:17 pm
I think that sometimes my husband is so into himself and his illness, he is oblivious to the pain that is inflicted on me and our daughters. Our whole lives have revolved around him, his illness, and dealing with the unpredictable nature of the beast. Of course, he takes everything out on me, blames me for having him hospitalized and forcing him to take meds, I am the one that suffers the most. Sometimes I think it’s worse for me than it is him. Then I see how much he suffers and I feel guilty.
I know it’s not really him, it’s his illness, but sometimes it’s hard to stay compassionate. I love him dearly & we’ve been married 20 years so far, so I’m not going anywhere. If he had cancer or some other disease I wouldn’t leave him, so I won’t for a brain disorder either. Bipolar sucks.
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