I asked a question on our facebook page the other day in regards to pushing away your significant others as a result of having bipolar disorder. I even went as far as to post the question on Reddit (One of my new favorite websites). The responses were pretty similar throughout. I mean it’s no secret; Relationships are HARD to maintain when your moods are all over the place. It’s pretty much to be expected.
I make it a habit to always put myself in other people’s shoes. (Not literally of course, because heaven knows I can never fit into anyone else’s shoes … well except my 9 yr old’s … but that’s neither here nor there) I like to look at things from everyone’s point of view, not just my own. And my question today does exactly that. It’s become common a common question for us, “What do I do when my significant other pushes me away?”. I’d like to say I have the answer to this, but to be honest, I don’t.
I think the main concern for our friends/family/significant others is whether or not they should give up on us.
Do we really want to push them away? Do we really want them to leave and never come back? Do we really want them to give up on us?
Do we want them to keep fighting to keep us in their lives? Do we want them to hold on and wait for us to come back?
Is want even the right word here? I guess what we’re really looking for is, what do we NEED from them?
So therein lies my question.
What advice can we give those trying to hold on to us as we are pushing them away?